Its great! Well so I think, I know some people say different!
I have gained so much from the wise words of Shaunti. A lot of the information I guess I already knew but I just didn't acknowledge until now.
I would recommend this book to all my girl friends out there! I think its especially good if you are in a relationship and you want to make sure the relationship stays as good as it is right now or you want it to be even better!
I have actually read a few reviews of other people and they have said they have gained so much from the book that they are giving this one and 'For Men Only' as wedding gifts! I think that's a wonderful idea!
For any of you who are reading this and thinking....'What on earth is this book about??' Look no further..here is a short summary and a few things that have been taken from the book!
For Women Only is full of eye-opening revelations you need to not only understand the man in your life, but to support and love him in the way he needs to be loved.
A friend posted this next part and this is the reason I bought it to read...Thanks Kel! :0) It gives the main highlighted issues of the book.
1. Men would rather feel unloved that inadequate and disrespected. Husbands need to know that their wives respect them publically and privately. Men thrive when they know that their wives trust them, admire them and believe in them. Shaunti Feldhaun's (Christian writer of the book) research indicates that men would rather sense the loss of loving feelings from their wives than be disrespected by them.
2. A man's anger is often in response to being disrespected by his wife. When a husband seems angry with his wife, he may not just come right out and say "You're disrespecting me!" but there's a good likelihood that he's feeling stung by something that his wife has done that he considers disrespectful and humiliating.
3. Men are insecure. Men are afraid that they're not cutting it in life - not just at work, but at home, in their role as husband. They may never vocalize this, but inwardly they are secretly vulnerable. The antidote? Affirmation. To men, affirmation from their wives is everything! If they don't receive this affirmation from their wives, they'll seek it elsewhere. When they receive regular genuine affirmation (not flattery, by the way), they become much more confident and secure in all areas of their lives.
4. Men feel the burden of being the provider for their family. Intellectually, it doesn't matter how much or how little a man makes, or whether or not his wife makes more than he does. Men simply bear the emotional burden of providing for their family. It's not a burden they've chosen to bear. Men are simply born with this burden. As such, it's never far from their minds and can result in the feeling of being trapped. Wives cannot release their husbands from this burden, but they can relieve it through a healthy dose of appreciation, encouragement and support.
5. Men want more sex. Everyone's natural response to that is probably, "Duh!" But, that response is probably for the wrong reason. We primarily think that men want more sex from their wives for a physical reason (their "needs"), but, surprisingly, research shows that men want more sex because of their strong need to be desired by their wives. Men want to be wanted. Regular, fulfilling sex is critical to a man's sense of feeling loved and desired.
6. Sex means more than sex. When men feel that their wives desire them sexually, it has a profound effect on the rest of their lives. It gives them an increasing sense of confidence and well-being that carries over into every other area of his life. The flipside of this coin also carries a profound negative effect. When a husband feels rejected sexually, he not only feels that his wife is rejecting him physically, but that she is also rejecting his life as a husband, provider and man. That's why making sex a priority in marriage is so important!
7. Men struggle with visual temptation. This means that the vast majority of men respond to visual images when it comes to women. And, this doesn't just mean the guys with wandering eyes. Even the most godly husband cannot avoid noticing a woman who dresses in a way that draws attention to her body. Even if it's just a glance, these visual images can reappear without warning. Men can choose to dwell on these images or repress them, but they cannot control that they are visual people.
8. Men enjoy romance but doubt their skills to be romantic. True, many men appear to be unromantic clods. But, it doesn't mean that they want to be that way! Men want to be romantic, but they just doubt that they can pull it off. They are plagued by internal hesitation, perceiving the risk of humiliation and failure as too high. Wives can do a great deal to increase their husbands' confidence in their romantic skills through encouragement and redefining what romance looks like. For example, a wife may balk when her husband asks her to go along to the hardware store, but it's likely that he's asking because it sees it as an opportunity for them to get away as a couple and hang out together. What's not romantic about him thinking that and wanting to be with her?
9. Men care about their wife's appearance. This isn't saying that all men want their wives to look like a supermodel. What men really want is to know that their wives are making an effort to take care of themselves (and not letting themselves go) because it matters to their husbands. Husbands appreciate the efforts their wives make to maintain their attractiveness.
10. Men want their wives to know how much they love them. This was the number one response of men. Men aren't confident in their ability to express this, but they love their wives dearly. Men want to show how much they love their wives and long to express this fact.
You may have just read over the above and thought....yeah yeah tell me something I don't know and you may think this book is not for you!!! TRUST ME GIRLS....this book is for all of us!!!!
I really do hope you will give it a read and then let me know what you think!
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